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be real. be yourself. be unique. be true.
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.”’
There was a time when I didn't think I could ever be happy. I felt all alone. I felt confused, angry and overwhelmed.
I am grateful that all began to change when I started looking inside. I discovered how I was the cause of my unhappiness and what exactly stood between me and enjoying life.
In this post, i would like to share with you the 15 things we need to stop doing and we will be well on our way to happiness which in turn will effect how effective the outcome will be on anything we put our action on.
1) Neglecting yourself and your needs
One of the biggest things you were ignoring was what was right for you. You looked outside for the answers. You looked to friends and society to tell you how to live your life. It was too painful to discover what you needed, so you gave away your power and hoped that would solve everything.
It will not. Eventually, you'll realized that no one really knows how to live a happy life. Some seem confident, but they don’t really know. Even the happiest of people go through dark times.
When I began noticing what I felt drawn to do and what felt right for me, things began to change. It happened slowly. I wasn’t confident at first, but I began to listen to myself. I communicated with me through feeling. When something was right for me, I felt peace, joy, and curiosity inside. When something wasn’t right, it felt lifeless, dead.
Listen to yourself.
2) Excessive social media
It’s time to simply cut down on this. Yes, you’re becoming unhappy because of social media. We’re experience a dopamine problem as we’re getting to used to information that happens too fast.
When was the last time you actually simply enjoyed a movie, a dinner with family or when you are catching up with your friend over coffee, without checking your phone?
You don’t have to quit social media cold turkey just yet. Try deleting the mobile apps first. That way when you head out, you can start being free.
3) Pleasing everybody
You can’t. It’s impossible. It’s just going to drive you nuts. It’s even going to make people unhappy with you as you come across as if you’re trying too hard.
4) Reading the news (too much)
Especially when it’s nothing but clickbait content.
These “news” pieces were specifically made to make you click. More often than not, it’s on the disturbing or negative side of things.
Why ruin your day that way? Sure, these things happen, but good things also happen. Remember that.
5) Sleeping late because of merely using your phone
It’s a bad habit a lot of us have cultivated.
Yes, this is making us sleep less. Your thinking, “Just 5 minutes only” is skewed. You know it’s way longer than that!
Go to bed without your phone. Just sleep!
6) Surrounding yourself with bad people and not standing up for yourself
These are not your friends. They only mean to drag you down because they’re suffering themselves. These are bullies.
Stand up for yourself already. You deserve to. You shouldn’t have to put up with that nonsense.
Then, walk away. You can find better friends.
7) Identifying your whole life as your job
I don’t want to say something cliche like quitting your job just because you hate it.
I think the more dangerous thing is to identifying yourself, your life and your entire being as your job. You’re not your job. You’re you. Your life is what you make of it in this world and not just in the office. This is how you start remembering how capable you are.
8) Reacting the SAME way at the heat of moment
If you want different results, you’ve to do something different.
If you want to master a certain emotion and get over some issues, you’re going to have to toughen up and stop reacting the same way you always do. If it’s change you want, then change something. It’s going to be really challenging at first, but it will get easier. Besides, only real winners who are adults mature that way. Only kids would pout.
9) Gossiping so much
When you talk about other people and their lives, you’re effectively wasting the time you could have used to come up with ideas instead. And it’d also reflect badly on you. Only insecure people focus on others so much and not themselves.
Stop! Find solutions instead.
11) Spoiling or not spoiling yourself
Stop spoiling yourself if you’re already in debt or have a gambling problem.
Spoil yourself if you know you’ve been working really hard and deserve something nice. You know you do.
12) Arguing on the internet
I’m just going to say it: This is by far the most unproductive thing to ever do in the world.
It’s not going to go anywhere and it’s only going to make you unhappy. So just cut it out.
13) Going after someone who doesn’t appreciate you
Sooner or later you’re going to have to call it quits despite having strong feelings for him or her.
If they don’t appreciate you, then it’s just going to be a waste of time.
Again, you deserve way better than that. Someone out there is a better match for you and would gladly take you for who you are.
14) Holding back
Stop holding back in life. If you want something, go all out for it. There’s no reason to go at it in a 50-50 manner.
Life is too short to not realize your full potential.
15) Trying to control life
Don’t control life. Instead control your reactions and actions but not much else.
When you try to manipulate life, people, and places, you will end up exhausted. It’s not your domain. It’s not up to you to control outcomes. All you can do is follow your heart, listen to yourself, and have faith.
We are here to experience both the good and the bad. We are here to learn and to grow. To cry and to laugh.
Experience it all.
Hi! I'm Liyana. In this blog, I'll share stories, tips and tools to help you move beyond burnout and thrive at the intersection of mind, body and business.